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Hi, I'm Chelsea! Iām on a mission to help you find joy and goodness in every day.
On this blog we talk about the big things (like chasing dreams) and the small things (like what books we're reading) because happiness comes in all sizes.
We spend a lot of time wondering what we need more of in order to be happier, when sometimes, I think the better question is what do we need less of to be happier?
Jealousy.
I’ve heard that healthy jealous is good, but really, when has this ever worked out? When you’re jealous, you’re entirely too focused on someone else–what they have, what they do, who they are–and not nearly focused enough on yourself and what you have and what you do and who you are. Cutting out jealousy leads to cutting out a lot of nasty stuff in life, so it’s a great place to start.
Negativity.
Life is too short to be negative, plain and simple. The world is a beautiful place if you look for beauty, and it’s a terrible place if you only look for the negative. This is one of the biggest choices you have in life..you can be a positive person, or you can be a negative person. Personally, I like being around positive people more, don’t you?
Comparison.
Right up there with jealousy, this just never leads anywhere good. When you choose to compare yourself to others, you are cheapening who you really are. You are never going to be exactly like someone else, just like no one else is ever going to be exactly like you. It’s a waste of time and energy to spend time seeing how you compare to others, and it leads to being exhausted and bitter, two enemies of happiness.
Clutter.
I am a messy person. I know this about myself. No matter how much I love when things are clean and tidy, by nature, I am just a messy person. When my house is messy, it stresses me out. You know what leads to messiness? Clutter. You convince yourself you need it and then it takes over your house.
One of the easiest steps to being happy is this: If you don’t use or need or love something, say goodbye to it. It’s that simple.
The bad kind of tired.
There are two kinds of tired. There’s the kind you are when your day has been filled with fulfilling work or adventure or excitement, and you’re tired because you spent your day, and then there’s the kind of tired where you’re overwhelmed and too much happened and the day just went by you. That’s the bad kind of tired.
While it would be nice to fill every day with excitement and laughter and adventures, we do all have to work, I get it. But you can still say goodbye to the bad kind of tired by choosing to spend your day instead of letting it fly by you. If you have to work a job you don’t love, don’t let it exhaust you. Instead, choose to be the best you can be at it. There’s a difference between simply checking things off your to-do list and choosing to be productive and effective. If you pour your heart into your day-to-day, chances are, you’ll end the day feeling the good kind of tired.
What else do you recommend saying goodbye to for a happier life?
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Amen and amen. I'm working to remove these from my life :)!
Can we get a round of applause for this post. I love your positive attitude and you spread it around so wonderfully.
I agree with all of these, especially clutter. I went through my closet a lot this year and am sooo happy that it's no longer overwhelming. It was hard to get rid of clothes (I would see a shirt I haven't worn in a year, but then I'd immediately NEED it when I tried to give it away), but now I barely even remember what clothes I donated.
Amen to all – especially jealousy and comparison. Be too busy watering your own grass to notice if someone else's is greener.
YAS!
I was the bad kind of tired for sure yesterday, and couldn't agree more about the jealousy. Truer words have never been spoken š
Amen girl, you know I love your outlook on life and feel exactly the same!
Lovely list! I, too, am a messy person by nature. I try my best to keep my home clean and organized, but I don't even realize when I'm leaving stuff out. So I constantly give things away. Less possessions = less stuff to leave laying around! And I spend way too much time being the bad kind of tired.
Also, say goodbye to bad habits, no matter how hard they hard to give up.
I would love to say goodbye to all of these things- I am working on it!
I really need to get rid of the clutter from my life. It is a major source of stress and I can't handle it.
Yes!! Especially clutter and the bad kind of tired. I am always surprised at how much happier/relaxed I am when my space is clean and clutter free.
I totally agree with this!! Great post!! I think people overlook the importance of being clutter free! It really does have an impact.
Danielle
http://www.blushblossom.com
clutter is suuuuuch a good one. i really struggle with this so i'm trying to get better about it because it only adds stress!
Such a good point about the bad kind of tired – I hate that grouchy, anxious feeling you get after a draining day! x
Sophie Cliff
Yes, this!!!
yes, yes, and yes to all of this! Comparison was the first thing I thought of before I read through your list.
Hmmm, good question! I feel like I can be judgmental and really work on trying NOT to be. I also hate to be too busy, downtime is my friend, as is lots of reading time;)
Absolutely yes!! Loved everything you said here!!! Tanks so much for sharing!!
š Rebecca
Too true, but also incredibly difficult. It's easier said than done. Jealousy, comparison, negativity – it's all horrible but how do we consciously say goodbye to those feelings?
-M
The Life of Little Me
I feel like you just outlined my entire last semester…definitely putting on a fresh face and a new attitude for the upcoming fall! It is so easy to get sucked into all of these but it can really drain on you, mentally and physically. Great tips, wonderful post!
~ Samantha
Absolutely – this is SO true!!!!
I agree with the overwhelmed tired needing to go.
Yes, yes and yes!! So very true. You will be an amazing mama, you have so much love and wisdom to share!! xo
Yes! I totally agree with all of this. I'm all about releasing negativity. If I find myself complaining about something, I let myself complain about it and then I let it go. (I'm also all about releasing the feelings by allowing yourself to acknowledge and feel them… so if I'm in a bad mood, I let myself feel that way for a short period of time, and then I move on with life…I find that if I don't feel it, I'm just stuffing it down.) Also, anger. There's no need to hold onto anger over people and situations. I've never seen anger help anyone, so just let it go.
Oh I love this! Especially the tired! I really need to work on that one!
From one hoarder to another, I highly recommend the book The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up, if you haven't read it yet. I flew through it, and it has loads of great advice about how to get rid of stuff that doesn't bring us joy.
Cat
http://oddlylovely.com
From one hoarder to another, I highly recommend the book The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up, if you haven't read it yet. I flew through it, and it has loads of great advice about how to get rid of stuff that doesn't bring us joy.
Cat
http://oddlylovely.com