Don’t Apologize For Who You Are.

I say “sorry” entirely too often. It’s something I’m working on, but I have a long way to go. A friend told me this summer that when you say “sorry” all the time, it cheapens your apologies, and that was really thought-provoking to me. I want my apologies to mean something, so I started looking at the types of things I apologize for. 

Wanna know what I found? I apologize a lot for who I am. 

Sorry, I shouldn’t have gotten my feelings hurt over that. I’m too sensitive. 

Sorry, I’m a mom, so I can’t go out with you tonight because I don’t have a babysitter. 

Sorry, I’m a blogger, so I really want to go back there and take a picture of that so I can use it in a post. 

When you apologize for parts of who you are, it’s like you’re intentionally cutting yourself down. And it’s really, really hard to love someone who is always cutting you down. And if anyone should be able to love you, it’s you. 

I’m extremely imperfect. I’m very bad at making decisions, they take me forever. I get really emotionally invested in silly things, so I sometimes cry over stuff that is unimportant, in the grand scheme of things. I have hella anxiety that sometimes effects daily things. 

Do you know who I owe an apology to about these things? 

Not a single person. 

If you’re like me and say “sorry” without even thinking about it, I want to challenge you to start paying attention to the things that get your apologies. And I want you to stop handing them out when it comes to who you are. 

You are amazing, flaws and all, and you should never apologize for who you are.