Five Things to Do When You Feel Like You’re Not Enough.

Take stock of the things you are consuming. || If you want to be a professional speaker, and the mega successful professional speakers you follow online are making you feel not good enough instead of inspired, it may be time to unfollow for a little bit. If you’re trying to make it as a blogger, and the giant bloggers you follow are making you look at everything that’s wrong with you instead of propelling you forward, maybe a little less of looking at their pictures and a little more finding things to consume that are encouraging to you.

There are seasons when all the bikini models on instagram couldn’t make me feel bad about myself, and there are seasons when seeing a stranger on instagram with a cute haircut can send me into tears over a bad hair day. Know your seasons. Pay attention to them. 

Reevaluate who you’re spending the most time with. || Let me tell you something – your circle should make you feel like more than enough. They should hype you up way too much. You should leave any time spent with them feeling like you can take on the whole world.

If I believe the things my mom says, it’s only a matter of time before I write a book that lands on the NYT bestseller list. If I believe my best friend, I’m the hottest person that ever walked the face of this earth every time I wear something cute. That’s how it should be! So many things in this world are going to make you feel like you’re not enough – the people you choose to do life with should not be one of them. 

Say it out loud! ||  Sometimes we have to say a doubt out loud in order to kill it. When you’re feeling like you’re not enough, speak the actual words out loud. Say it out loud to your friend: I feel like I’m not good enough for this. Talk it out. Make yourself talk out how you’re feeling inadequate, and make yourself listen while they tell you how adequate you are. Say it out loud alone in your car: I feel like I’m not good enough for this. And then have a good laugh that you’re worried over something so insignificant.

Ask yourself – Is this real? || This is something I’ve learned this year and is maybe the most powerful tool I’ve ever known about. Ask yourself: Is this real? 

Are you really not good enough? For example, lets say you’re feeling not good enough at your job. Ask yourself and answer honestly: Are you not good enough for your job? 

Are you getting all your work done? Able to complete assignments without a problem? No complaints from your boss? Cool, you’re good enough! Move on from that worry. Every time you come back to it, remind yourself of the reasons it’s not real, and move on again.  

Are you not getting your work done on time? Really struggling with simple assignments? Your boss complaining about it? Okay, you might not be good enough for your job – YET. Get a plan to fix that! Take a class, meet with people who are good at what you’re trying to become good at, and work. 

Every time the worry that you’re not good enough pops up, acknowledge it, then remind yourself that you’ve got a plan to fix that and you’re working on it. 

Do one thing that builds your confidence. || It feels good to do things we’re good at. Are you good at writing? Write something. Baking? Bake your neighbors some cookies. Running? Lace on up. Do something you have confidence in to remind yourself how good enough you are. 

What do you when you feel like you’re not enough?