What October Taught Me.

That I have a strong desire for being able to peacefully disagree. || It’s been bothering me so much lately how we, as humans, can’t seem to just disagree and move on. We have to be right, and if we’re right, then the other person must be wrong, and that’s that. And if that’s that, we neeeeed to argue about it.

Now, I’m not talking about basic good and evil. Some things are inherently wrong. Racism, for instance. If you’re a racist, we’re never gonna peacefully disagree and we are gonna argue about it. But if you hate something I’m a huge fan of, or vice versa, we should be able to just disagree and go about our lives. If you think I’m spending my free time doing something stupid, or if I think you’re crazy for what you spend your money on, or if we’re voting differently, let’s hear each other out and then say, “Cool! Let’s move on!” It is good to have people in your life who are different than you. It stretches you as a human. 

Long lesson short: Try harder to understand those who view things differently than you. Not everything needs to be so polarizing and not everything needs to be an argument. 

Fall weather makes everything better. || We got a little chilly spell here in Florida, and the second I was mobile again after the stomach flu, I opened alllll the windows and instantly felt better. This last week has been a very stressful one, and taking a few minutes to step outside and breathe in some cool air has helped tremendously. It’s a little bit of magic. 

Long lesson short: Get outside and enjoy the fall weather. 

To not be afraid to buy from MLMs. || Just gonna level with you here: I (subconsciously?) have believed the stigma of MLMs. I personally have nothing against them, they’re filed under “good for her, not for me.” But, it’s one of those things where a few bad apples can ruin it for the good ones. In this case, the bad apples being the girls you haven’t spoken to since high school sliding into your dms saying “You’ve been on my mind! Can I help you lose weight?” No Karen, no you may not. So much yuck to make a buck, amiright?

Anyway, I’ve bought from a few MLMs in the past, but only from people I’m real-life close enough to that I could just straight up say, “hi, I hate this, never bring it up again, okaythankyoubye” if I needed to. But I finally got so fed up with my skin breaking out from makeup that I wanted to try non-toxic stuff. Googling told me Beautycounter was the best non-toxic brand, but…ding ding! It’s an MLM. I suspended my ick feelings about MLMs, ordered from a stranger on instagram…and I love it. I don’t know that I’ll ever wear any other makeup because my skin is doing so well on this stuff.

Long lesson short: Shame on me for being judgy. Stop that. 

That I’m never going to be fully happy if I’m not writing. || Why, why, whyyyyyy are the things that make us happy the first to go when we’re busy and overwhelmed? I know for a fact I’ve written something similar here before, but apparently, I’m not in the business of taking my own advice. 

For the last two months, other than blog posts, I’ve written  n o t h i n g. Nada. Zip. Zilch. I’ve been having a stressful go at it, and things I deem unnecessary fly off the to-do list to make room for everything else. Sometimes, we go through survival phases, and we have to do what we have to do. But YOUR GIRL NEEDS TO WRITE. I’ve been squeezing in ten minutes writing here and there the last few days, long to-do lists and all, and it has made a world of difference. 

Long lesson short: Do the things that make you feel happy, no matter how busy you are. 

HAPPY HALLOWEEN! What did October teach you?