You Know You Best.

We live in a digital age that is overflowing with advice and information. Some of it great, some of it pretty good, some of it terrible, nearly all of it contradicting. 

You should unplug and rest at night, because self-care. But you should also hustle late into the night, because big dreams. 

You should travel anywhere you want to go, because experiences. But you should also save all of your money, because responsibility. 

You should workout super hard every day, because health. But you should also not push yourself too hard, also because health. 

You will see constant recommendations everywhere (even here!) and most of them are truly well-meaning. Everyone is sharing what has worked for them. And, when something works for you, you tend to want to shout it from the rooftops so it can work for everyone else, too!

Honestly, I think it’s kind of amazing. I can type a few words in on my phone and within minutes have lots of suggestions on how to potty train my kid, or what to eat for clearer skin, or how to deal with friendship problems, or how to set boundaries in life. 

But all of it can be just a little overwhelming. 

So just a little reminder that you know you best. You know what’s best to take to heart and what’s best to read and file under “good for them, not for me.” You know the difference between “that will be healthy for me to try” and “I want to do this so I’ll be like her.” You know the difference between “this will enrich my life” and “this will make my life look more like his life.” 

Filter all the opinions and advice and suggestions – even the good stuff – through the filter of, “what’s best for me?” 

A silly example: I’m allergic to pineapple. I didn’t develop an allergy until I was 22, so I know exactly what I’m missing. When I look up wellness and healthy eating and building your immune system, pineapple comes up a lot. A lot of people I admire and respect and maybe even want to be like recommend pineapple. But I know if I eat pineapple, I’ll die (not really, but I’ll be miserable and look terrible and feel awful). So when I see people recommending pineapple, I just think, ugh you’re so lucky “that’s great for you, but I need to pass on that.”

Do that. Figure out your pineapple. Maybe traveling stresses you out and you hate it. Maybe spending too much time alone in the name of self-care depresses you. Maybe working out daily is not good for your body. The people suggesting these things don’t know you, but you know you the very best. 

Do what’s best for you.